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How we perceive things define what they are. If we perceive them to be negative, they become negative. Take your marriage, for example. Because you miss your youth, you begin to entertain thoughts that your marriage stole it away.
What we’re forgetting in the process are the things that are obvious for other people. First, you chose to get married. It’s not something that you were forced to do, based on your narration of facts at least. Second, what made you say that your youth was actually stolen in the first place? Couldn’t you enjoy your youth right now? Couldn’t you meet new friends? Couldn’t you go out with them and enjoy new things?
Marriage entails a lot of sacrifices, yes. It may even restrict us from a lifestyle we would rather live. But a healthy marriage doesn’t make us slaves. You can still enjoy the fun times of your youth (you are still young, after all). Nothing’s stopping you.
The fun times need not be compromised. The follies, however… well… You cannot blame your marriage for the things you miss, more so when the things you long for aren’t really beyond your grasp. You can still enjoy them, savor them, revel in them. For as long as your obligations to your family are not neglected, you can still have a lot of fun!
Age gap is something that has been an issue in the past, but in this day and age, people’s ages have become blurred. Just a while ago, I saw a 40-year old woman who looks like she just had her prom! The point is that modern culture has evolved, from grooming habits to acceptable customs to radical beliefs. People these days won’t make a big issue out of the age difference between two parties.
What could be an issue is stage gap, not age gap. Stage gap is a difference in the maturity level of the spouses in a marriage. One may think very differently than the other. While a spouse is focused on earning and saving for the future, for example, the other spouse could still be at that age when he or she wants to have lots of fun. This could be a problem, as it involves a difference in understanding and ideologies.
But then again, there exists no problem that cannot be remedied. Everything has a solution. All that is needed is the will to follow through. If the spouses’ hearts are in the right place, they can easily work out their differences, including any problems that may arise from the stage gap between them. So, no, I don’t think age gap is an issue. And I don’t think stage gap is an issue either. Whoever is lagging behind the maturity phase will eventually grow up anyway.