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I am telling you right now, romanticizing relationships, and marriage in particular, in such a manner is courting disaster. Allow me to tell you why. Destiny, fate, serendipity, soul mates… these are ideas that promote the belief of predetermination, that is, everything that has happened, is happening, and will happen in our lives has already been prepared. All we are doing, basically, is going through the motions.
You hear people saying “I will wait for the one I love because someone out there is meant for me.” It’s the belief in predetermination at work. What if that person never comes? Would that mean that you were destined not to meet a romantic partner?
Should you wait for the right partner or should you go and find the perfect love for you? Or better yet, should you go out and strive to achieve the perfect love you have always dreamed of?
Predetermination destroys the idea of free will. If we believe in destiny, fate, serendipity, or whatever word it takes, we are, in a way, saying that our choices don’t matter. What good are the decisions we make when everything has been planned beforehand?
Destiny, fate, serendipity, soul mates… these are highly romantic and romanticized terms that may solicit a few giggles from high school girls. But marriage is a different matter altogether.
Marriage requires work.
Lots of work.
It’s not something that we can simply leave in a corner to watch it grow. It’s something we should care for so that it may develop as beautifully as possible.
It’s not something that we can just leave to chance. It’s something where we should control the probabilities so that we may continue to enjoy marriage for an entire lifetime.
Marriage needs work. And it needs both parties to cooperate with one another. Marriage, after all, by its very definition is not a one-way affair. It is always a two-way street where both spouses must meet halfway and where both spouses must commit themselves to the betterment of their married life.
Destiny, fate, serendipity, soul mates…
These are great words used in fairy tales of undying love and unwavering courage, where good always triumphs over evil and the protagonists always ride off into the sunset to live a life described by a classic cliché.
But there is no such thing as fairy tales in real life.
Though there are fairytale endings.
But these are endings we should work for. These are endings that result from the series of choices we make. These are endings created by our commitment and desire to make our marriages work. Indeed, fairytale endings do exist. But much work needs to be done to achieve a life that can be lived happily ever after.