If you're serious about saving your marriage, you MUST Check This Out!

Infidelity is a vile act, regardless of what gender perpetrates it. I must admit that people who prove most difficult to heal emotionally are those who have been cheated on by the partners they have loved with all their hearts. The effects of a betrayal on the betrayed run deep, and though time heals all wounds, it often takes a long time before the pains of betrayal can go away.

If I were to give an estimate, I’d say that one and a half years is the average period by which a person can move on from such an episode.

Most people decide to call it quits once their partners cheat on them. This is actually advisable for relationships without the benefit of marriage.

But for a married couple? There are simply too many factors at play.

Primary among them are the children. The children suffer most when their parents are not on the same page. What they get to feel and observe during their formative years from their parents will be carried way into their adult lives. They often become emotional baggage, if not issues that mold their personalities. Some of them become hesitant about long-term relationships, thinking that it will just end up like their parents’. Some of them become promiscuous, since they were led to believe that relationships should not be taken seriously, otherwise, they’ll just get hurt. Others become apathetic about romantic possibilities.

Indeed, when a spouse cheats, he or she is not just cheating on his wife or her husband. Such a spouse is be cheating on his or her family as well. It’s not just the other partner who expects him or her to be faithful. The children also demand the same fidelity from their parents.

And so your husband cheated on you, but from what I can gather from your story, he is trying to come back. He is trying to patch things up with you. He did leave the other girl. This can only mean that he can’t risk losing you. Should you accept him back?

Could you forgive him for what he has done?

Forgiveness is not a license for him to cheat on you again. Forgiveness is not a euphemism for “it’s alright, everything’s alright, and we are alright.” Forgiveness is an act of love. Love is self-denial, after all. If you love someone, you’ll continue loving him even when he succumbs to the frailties of his humanity.

Do you love him?

Are you worried about not being able to trust him again? You could always ask him to earn back your trust. And if he loves you like he says he does, he will move heaven and earth just to prove it. The question is: will you give him that chance? You’ll never know unless you try, right?

Your world does not end with a love betrayed, more so when the betrayer shows remorse.

It’s all in your court. Just follow your heart.